MD's use words like trauma when they mean bruising. She has obviously picked up on this terminology and is using it as a stick to beat you with. I would be very careful about becoming more "sensitive" a lot of the guys here are dealing with issues brought about by being TOO nice. Sure you need to be aware and not to be too aggressive but tip-toeing around her is NOT the answer.
I am not saying you didn't hurt her, but she DID participate and she did like it like that. Just as others have said lubrication is key as is position. Do you ever let her go on top? For me that is a surefire way to O with vaginal penetration.
I had always aimed to please and she was always frustrated with failure to come vaginally, claiming I didn't get her going;
This is nonsense. We have had a lot of discussion on this board about who's job it is to get the woman to come. She has a much bigger part to play than she is acknowledging. I would say, if you ever do get that far, that next time you insist she goes on top and that you will learn from the way she is moving her body etc what turns her on. If you are reasonably fit and she is not hugely overweight you can still thrust from underneath her - which is something I personally find a huge turn-on.
Lastly, some couples that engage in "rough" sex have a code word or signal to use when it's getting too rough, she may have been enjoying it at first and then you couldn't tell the difference between moans of pleasure and moans of pain - maybe sometimes she even can't. That's why the code word/signal is the needed so she can clearly say STOP in a way that you know isn't just part of the game.
Good luck
Fran
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