Don't you think that your H's reaction to your near kiss gave him a big kick in the pants? Did it make him see what he may lose? It looks like it to me. I think it's it falls into the extreme catagory of LRT/GAL to go out & use the jelousy card...I'm not saying that was your intension here but I have known people to do that.
Had your H walked out when he did & not return, that would have told you that he's done & would be using your actions as an escuse to fuel his leaving excuse. The fact that he's still there, although mad & angry? I would say indicates that he is in fact not done at all.
You say he's making you pay for what you have done? So it's ok for him to do what he's doing & when you do something thats not even close, you pay? He has to see that if he's going to have his new life with OW or whatever it is...Then he also has to see what he's losing too.
Sorry I can't offer much more I was about to log off...In short I would not worry about having "mucked up" if he had simply walked out & not returned then you would need to worry more.
