our un-relationship

[Evie]

Wow, I can see why you are so reluctant. You still love him though? yes?

How did you get your H to talk more without pushing him back into his cave? You know the fact that he doesn't mind you staying at his place and vice versa speaks volumes to my mind. Maybe others may have a different stance on this?

How old are you both?

I guess the fact that he is still around for you and the baby is a positive sign. Also the fact that you are 'lovingly distant' may help, does he feel suffocated living together etc?

What does H want, does he say? Have you asked?

Maybe you could make a go of it, but take it one step at a time and have small 'timelines' eg 1 month ahead, then 3 then 6 and review the stich in a year?

You said he has a similiar fear of getting hurt again, why was he hurt in the past?

Sorry for the questions.

I've just had a little rant over in piecing it goes like this:

'i'm so frustrated this morning. I wish H would say something like 'things are ok atm, can we just take it one day at a time?' I just wish I knew where I stood and if he wants to work at the M. I feel like asking but I feel ok atm and don't want to deal with him saying he is still planning on going b/c then I would want him gone asap. This is so selfish, what about my needs, what about communication?
aarghhhhhhhhh

rant over

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