Yes, I admit the separation is the biggest issue here. But she says the sex issue is a big part of the separation, although not just the LAST EPISODE, but it keeps coming up, and I need some education, thus the post. I had always aimed to please and she was always frustrated with failure to come vaginally, claiming I didn't get her going; wasn't sensitive enough; kissing, etc. So the "vaginal trauma" reasoning I suspect is a red herring to the other sex issues. And her UTI's weren't that frequent, nothing extraordinary (1 or 2 times a year). So the proper DB routine here is to ADMIT guilt, show that I doing the 180's to be more sensitive, read up on how to get in touch with that side of me, etc.
