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(Cobra) Ok, you don't like my saying "certain" or "guaranteed," then I'll try to drop those type of statements,

It's not about dropping the statements, it's about understanding that you can't be certain of something you know so little about and possibly understanding how amusing it is to be certain of something you're absolutely wrong about.

If I told you that after reading your posts I'm certain your name is Bartholomew, and your name isn't Bartholomew, you might get quite a kick out of that. If I then told you that I guarantee the moon is made out of green cheese, you might feel the urge to point out to me that I'm using the terms "certain" and "guarantee" in a rather unusual manner.

I also think it might be a fruitful avenue of self-discovery for you to delve into how you can so positive that you're right when you are, in point of fact, wrong. I suspect you might discover how little one person actually knows about another...especially when they've never even met. I would guess that getting your arms around this truth would be helpful to your life in general. You may also find that not being positive about things you can't know with positivity puts you in a more efficient mindset and makes you more productive. You spend a lot of energy urging others down paths of self-discovery so it seems like you'd be open to it yourself.

If you want solid guaranteed advice, then cough up the money to find a high powered psychologist.

Red herring. Do you see what an utter deflection that is? When did I ever say or imply anything about wanting solid guaranteed advice?

As for how others perceive me, I don't know and don't care.

A) All the effort you put forth defending and explaining yourself is at odds with the notion that you neither know nor care how others perceive you.

B) That statement is again, a dodge/deflection, but you did go on to address the actual point:

I think some have a good bead on me, others are way off the mark.

And if those who are way off the mark positively insist that they're right, how would you take that?

I make it MY responsibility to know that difference rather than make it theirs to guess what I am like in real life.

Fearless has clearly made it her responsibility to know that difference rather than make it yours to guess, yet you keep right on guessing and you guarantee that you know more about her than she does herself.

You are trying to debate me over my authoritative tone, but in reality that doesn't have anything to do with what ticks you off, does it?

I'm not sure that anything so far has ticked me off, but whatever we choose to call it, it has everything to do with your authoritative tone on topics you're clearly not an authority on. That's what I've stated. I thought I stated it clearly. You're trying to twist that into something it's not. I suspect a strawman is right around the corner...

If I claim to have the knowledge of the universe, why would you care?

...and there it is. The answer is: because I choose to. What's that got to do with anything?

Why do you feel a need to protect others who are reading this board, to protect Heather, Fearless or one of the other DBers you may have met?

Are you sure that what I feel is a need? Could it perhaps be a want or a desire or a proclivity? I believe I choose to mostly because introspective people tend take it very seriously when someone makes forceful assertions about them or their situation. Support from someone who knows you is nice in the face of an unrelenting push from someone who doesn't know you.

You say your intentions are honorable, so what do you stand to gain?

I can't grok that sentence. Perhaps this is where you and I just diverge. You imply that my intentions are only honorable if there's something I stand to gain. That's not the way I understand the concept of honor.

Or perhaps you're just grasping at straws in an attempt to draw fire off of you and onto me.

What is you point?

Let's say you're in a bar. I walk into that bar with a buddy of mine. You walk up and guarantee that he's as dumb as a box of rocks. I then tell him and you that I've known him for a while and that he isn't, in fact, dumb. My point in that case would be the same as the point you're inquiring about.

If you want some recognition, then stand up and post something.

Another strawman.

Stick your neck out there and take a position.

Either you're managing to have quite a debate with someone who doesn't take a position or that's another strawman.

Tell us what your thoughts are, what you believe in, what you have learned, help work through an issue.

Be careful what you wish for.

But stop sitting back and taking easy pot shots whenever you see a contradiction in what someone says.

I certainly never start trading posts with you believing it will be easy. Pot shots are, I suppose, in the eye of the beholder. It seems to me you make a living pointing out the contradictions in what posters here say. Wasn't your guarantee that "there's something there" with Fearless based on what you perceive as contradictions in what she's said? It's the same thing; why discourage me from doing what you so often do? Is it more about who's the target of the action rather than the action itself?