Hi I have been lurking and reading here for months just not posting about my sitch in case you were wondering. But I had to come out of my hiding because I have a few things to say. It has come quite clear to me that you have let your wife and your marriage go (ok I know guys I'm stating the obvious here)(good for you by the way) with that said your wife hasn't clearly let you go. And I feel that's just down right selfish. And I think if this were me I be down right pissed off. I mean come on she worried about her image. This is your life here that she is playing with. You have every right to go on with your life and date publicly if you want. Screw her and let her deal with the consequences that she created. I'm tired of her excuses for holding you hostage. I mean come on I hope your not bying this BS about you trashing her and ruining her career because we all know on this board that you are going to be fair with her...there are the kids to think about and I know and everyone else knows how much you love those kids, so your not going to do any of that to her. It just seems like its her way of controlling you and the sitch.
In a sense it feels like that your both beating around the bush here. Come clean tell her your dating and tell her that your not hiding it anymore and tell her you want a divorce if that is what you want. Tell her that your tired of waiting on her and that you want to get the ball rolling. Don't let her assume nothing anymore. You have nothing to lose. I mean she said that she is still not going to work on the marriage so tell her to file the paper work. I know that this not what Db has taught us to do. But so many times on this board I see people asking when is enough enough. What I have found out from my own sitch is that you have to make that call yourself. So I ask you this question Nomo when is your enough?
Your a great guy! You deserve all the happiness in the world. I guess thats all I'm really saying here. I just want you to be able to pursue whom ever you want to pursue and not give a second thought to her and her image...and to be able to kiss your date in broad daylight...
You know I just might be totally off the mark here....and take it all of what I said with a grain of salt. This is just my perspective.
