"Going Dark" - 101

[theotherhalf]

Hey all,
Just dropped in to review some of the postings on this thread.
I really don't know if the "going dark" is working in my sitch or not. Alot lately I'm wondering if it is just enabling him to see OW in peace and to be "cake eating". Who knows?

Since my last post H stopped in one night out of the blue to just hang out. Ended up spending the night. I initiated the spending the night. Then nothing for over a week.

Next contact, was I went out, H knew it. He called and invited me to BIL's I said we'll see and I didn't go. I know that I have to not be available every time, but I really kicked myself for the next week.

Last Friday H called and invited me to BIL's to BBQ. I went of course. Didn't talk to him much there. But when I left I called him and asked if he wanted company at home. He said sure. I went and stayed till 3:30 am. And again I haven't heard anything from him since.

Other than these highlights there have been a few nights that H has been here to do farm stuff, and he'll hang out an hour or so just to chat. Neither of us have brought up R or D since back first of August. Good or bad? Who knows.

Granted H works Sun, Mon, Tues, and every other Sat. Night 5pm-5am. Then if he works extra day. So it The first part of the weeks he is sleeping most of the day. But a call just to say hi or to talk to the girls would make me feel better as to whether this may be working.

I guess time will tell.