HELLO DARKNESS MY OLD FRIEND

[forward]

"He still tries to see me, call me, email me. I ignore him. He knows where I live, work, play, etc.. A simple "I'm sorry" would change my lack of communication. That is common decency and respect."

Goal, I will tell you what DB counselor pointed out to me. By asking him to apologize w/o being friendly towards him, you are asking him to write you a big check (the $10,000 apology) from an account (marriage) that he last saw as empty. You need to add some funds to that account. Then maybe he'll add some, too, and will write that check!

So what if you offer a little encouragement now? An out of the blue Hello? Answer a call? A text?

I know he isn't deserving. But think about how hard it is to apologize to someone who won't speak to you.

Actually, there is a logical problem there, too--how can he apologize if you won't speak to him?