If you want to see where I'm currently at w/ my sitch, check out my post from Monday on my thread under Newcomers (entitled: Dancin' Like Nobody's Watching). That should sum things up pretty well. I don't post on my sitch very often anymore because it is pretty much stagnant, but there are positives to be noted in my recent post.
Regarding the pity party comment, I said don't throw yourself one WITH YOUR W. Absolutely grieve your recent loss, but get back on track and back to business as soon as you can. Don't wallow in sadness and despair any longer than necessary to experience the pain. Once you've grieved enough, get back on that horse on move on.
Do you have a current thread for yourself? If not, get one started, and I will try to post more to you there (that way we can let lost have her thread back! ).