donna, I don't expect us to be friends. I've never been able to be friends with an ex-boyfriend, I can't imagine being friends with an ex-husband when the stakes are so much higher. what I do need, however, is for us to be civil/considerate/decent to each other, since we do have kids that will link us for life. I never want to be those people whose kids have to choose between for life's events, or who have drama linked to them being in the same room together.
do I expect H to not bring OW to D3's dance recital next spring? I hope he is considerate enough not to, even if by that time the kids know her. But the following spring? well, by then, I guess, I'll hopefully be better about it.
its funny, I have one friend who's parents divorced when he was a teen. they are still very good friends, just didn't do well being married to each other. they went to each others weddings to different people...even danced together at their respective weddings. do I expect H and I to ever be that couple? hell no.
I miss him so much as a friend. I miss him as a husband, but I miss the best friend in him, too. I miss the humor we shared. I miss the things we had in common. I miss him. but I know, for now, and for the forseeable future, I can't be friends with him. I'm going to try to figure out the detached/not withdrawn thing, not sure if its possible for me at this point.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
