I'm so so sorry to hear that you're sick. Not fun. I usually have to be pretty sick for H to really take control of the situation.
I'm also sorry to hear that your H is still calling OW. Is she accepting his calls? I mean, not that it helps you because I know that you want him to be the one to want to stop. I just thought OW's H said NO CONTACT.
Where are there heads.....seriously??? How can you just abandon what you have without trying to make it work. Without sitting down and saying....this is a problem instead of turning to someone else & then saying.....but you should have known. I'm so angry that my H told me to be stronger yet was weak enough to turn to someone else. I would NEVER, NEVER do that.
Well, I hope you & the kids are better soon. Wish I could help out.
Take care-
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day