Still trying to win WAW back (#2)

[saffie]

Kids will use anything at that age to get attention - doesn't matter whether it's positive attention because they are being good or bad attention because they are being naughty. It's all just attention. MY H acted the same way when he thought he wasn't getting attention - was like having a 5th child!!

Of course your son will be picking up on the tension and making the most of it. Even better if he can trade you off against one another to his benefit - he won't understand that it's driving you and your S apart. He's also too young in my opinion to be able to vocalise how he may be feeling about things or even to know why he may feel some things.

Also, kids at this age test the boundaries anyway and it always seems worse when you are stressed.

I've got 4 children and my H and I made a pact early on that we would always try and back one another up in front of the children, and if we didn't agree we would argue it out in private and then come back with a united compromise. On the whole it works.Obviously there are times when you can't always agree or have the luxury of time to discuss something before dealing with the issue but these are the exceptions and generally we pay the price when we are not able to stick to this agreement - not the child!!!!

Sorry to meet you here under these conditions.

Saffie