All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Hi Cat,

Spoke to my close friend again today who had been pondering on my stich, she thinks the reason my H may have said to his friend that he couldn't afford to move out, was because he may actually not know what he really wants and to save face he told his friend he couldn't afford it?? It looks like our property abroad may be sold by the end of the year and it makes me wonder if that's what he's waiting for??? I feel like i'm sitting on a time bomb. But I am trying to be positive and telling myself he is here for now so keep on DBing...

My H acts indifferent if I hug him, I feel I can't be spontaneous, but i'm not really sure if he wants hugging or not if i'm feeling confident and acting 'as if' then i would hug up to his back in bed, but most of the time i feel he needs space.

He did me a huge favour today and I made sure I told him and he knew how appreciative I was that he had helped me. Today is teh day he agreed to bath and put boys to bed, however, he got held up at work and didn't make it back until they had gone to bed. He did text me to explain and i replied thanking him for letting me know and that it wasn't a problem. So we'll see if I can see some small improvements for my 'positive affirmations'!!

Cat - do you and hubby go to church together? do you work on your study together? I guess it makes you question things then?

I don't go to church, maybe I should?

You are right about my stich been fresh and yes i'm not ready to give in, I just wish I knew what was going on his head?? Is he working on things in his own way? in one respect things are much better at home, I feel less needy and stronger, more independent, but at the same time desparate for him to notice the change.

Are you having a good week with H, how's his work stich?

How do you gauge improvements and do you have R talks?

PMA

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