Karen, you are so gracious, but you know, everyone has a breaking point, even you. I don't want you to get to that desperate place. Personally, I think YOU are the one who is vulnerable to an affair, but I know you are too self aware to compromise yourself and you are very respectful and caring of your H as well.
I know you have been down confrontation road, but you have to keep going back there ( confronting) until you get some sort of change or until you reach a place of acceptance with the situation as is.
Personally, I don't think your H is having an affair. You may be stirred up by my situation, but you have to remember that I was very LD for years in my marriage. My H didn't confront, but stewed in resntment and martyrdom all the while. I don't see your H this way. I think he has issues with intimacy and is trying to control his world in a way that makes him feel safe, but which disregards your needs. He needs a wake-up call.
