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[goinginsanehere]

Thanks SA...I'm going to my wife's apt tonight after work to talk about the email today where she said she had a lot of stuff to tell me. I am SO AFRAID to hear what she is going to say. I know it's not about coming back. I am shaking right now with anxiety wondering if she is going to tell me that the OTHER MAN has and is more than just a friend. I don't want to hear that she has been romantically involved with him even though she has said all along that he is just a friend even though she has some feelings.

[Have Faith]

I agree with SA. When she talks to you, just listen. Like Single said, you can process it later and also, NO MORE LETTERS. You are cool and calm.

Good job on the move. She will remember who was there to help her and who was not.

Faith

[goinginsanehere]

Have Faith,
I'm a bundle of nerves now, I don't know how I will stay calm if I actually hear the words come out of her mouth that she loves or is involved with the guy. Not sure if I can handle actually hearing it tonight without breaking down

[goinginsanehere]

Here is what her email said about tonight :

"I have a lot of stuff that I need to tell you"

[saffie]

If you think you are going to break down GET OUT and go and find company - even if it's a confessional or the Samaritans if you don't want to talk to someone you know. Come back on the boards and post. At the moment your fear and anguish are your worst enemies.


((((HUGS))))))

Saffie

[goinginsanehere]

Just got back from my W's apartment. I am crying hysterically and can hardly contain myself. She told me she's in love with the OM but didn't want to hurt me but wanted it in the open so I don't get false hopes that she will come back. She said she is confused right now and is not saying she won't ever come back, but definately not now. I CRIED HYSTERICALLY WHEN SHE TOLD ME, she hugged me and said she loved me but not in love with me.
IS THERE ANY HOPE or do I just wait to die?

[Yoyowife]

I'm so sorry. Go ahead and cry and get it out of your system. I know it hurts so badly. I think it's time you saw a doctor if you haven't seen one already to look into AD's. I resisted a few months getting on them thinking I could get my emotions under control by myself. I was wrong. I wish had done it much sooner. Please look after yourself. The only hope you have of getting her back is to change yourself because we aren't capable of changing our spouses. We have to take charge of our lives.

Hugs, Yoyo

[LL44]

I am so sorry!! I know that was nearly impossible to hear. Please cry all you want, but then you will have to pick yourself up and face things. We can't control them.

Keep in the back of your mind that what your W is saying may not be reality. She seems to be begging for space and very confused.

Stay strong.

[Dr LOve]

She told me she's in love with the OM but didn't want to hurt me but wanted it in the open so I don't get false hopes that she will come back. said she loved me but not in love with me.
IS THERE ANY HOPE or do I just wait to die?

same thing My W said 5 months ago. But she is still living here.

Husband

[SingleAgain]

Do not cry to her again. It is unattractive. Have you read Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy yet? You are doing everything humanly possible to chase her right out of your life. Are you just winging it?