Plank removed from my eye, too late for WAW? 6

[Heimlich]

Thanks, everyone. Going to do my best to turn the spotlight from my W (which is part of the reason I'm in this mess, when she was willing to work on us, as some of you will recall from my original couple of posts, I was so focused on her role in all of this, I forced her away. My heart was in the right place, but I was blaming her) and back to where it should be: on me.

I've a number of self-help books and will check into seeing a therapists as well.

No, I appreciate the directness, OT, as you indicate. I know that you can be perceived as cold, but I do understand what you're trying to do with your advice. As I've mentioned before, it's appreciated.

Savings/GD, You're both on target as well. I know I can see these things in others, but, to steal OT's metaphor, that's not my front yard. I am not sending the image of myself that I feel growing inside to my W. To her I seem duplicitous, manipulative, pushy, disrespectful of her and her space, and weak. Along with probably a few other adjectives.

Mandy, I'm not a religious person, but I may start going back to church of some sort, or at least meditating (which, to me, has always been very similar to prayer).

BD