I have no certain answers for you. My S8 was the same age as your son the first time around with this mess..and he was deeply affected. But when we were able to reconcile he had a noticeable difference. So this is temporary. Don't let him feel like he has control over the 2 of you with his temper tantrums. Be firm and loving....and most importantly a united front when it comes to him. Sit him down and tell him that his behavior is unacceptable. You understand that he may feel upset and hurt, and that's ok. He can tell you he's mad or sad or whatever. Even a 4 yr. old will understand that. But the misbehaving won't be tolerated. Indulging him out of guilt it the worst you can do. It puts too much control in his hands and will leave him feeling vulnerable and insecure. Right now the biggest thing he needs is security.
Nice to meet you, btw. I'm Ginger and in your same sitch.
God bless, ~G
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