And, honey...you aren't losing your mind - you are just reacting to him losing his mind!
Thanks W8ing..I am just so burnt out..I have wasted this past week writing lists of the crap that OW has done in front and to the kids..Letter to XH..emailed L..called T. (no, I didn't give XH letter or lists..just for me to have in case we go to court)
It's amazing how you forget how exhausting all this b.s. is. It has brought me back to the place I was three years ago and it is pretty crappy.
I don't like waiting for the bomb to drop since there has been no XH contact since he emailed me.
I feel a little bit bullied because I have no reacted nor responded to his threat of taking kids 12 hours away.
I did call today and left a message on VM asking him, once again,for his itinerary on his impending trip. I told him via VM that I will not allow for the kids to go away to another country based on many reasons. However, I am all ears if you want to sit down in front of a T or simply you voice your concerns and/or opinions with me. Once again, I said convince me that the kids will be safe and secure and they won't be around abusive behavior when you and the OW are fighting. I would LOVE to hear that.
No call back.
So, off I go to do errands and try to get my mind off this crap.
I am not going to lie to any of you, the thought the the Rat is behind all this crap since she gets a free vacation makes me so mad..Why doesn't she just stay the F out of it!
Sweets, if you think the rat is writing the emails and provoking....and if xh is nice when you're nice and is in a phase where he is secretly looking at you fondly and wanting his old life back...i say do this.
ask xh, in a sweet nice tone, that you just love how the both of you co-parent when you talk directly. no emails. just on the phone or in person. be sweet, nice and deliver the declines nicely. seems he's the type of guy to react to that. plus, you look sweet and the rat looks horrible so he won't give you [censored] (who really cares what he thinks of anyone, just so that he acts decently to you regarding kids).
and cut her out altogether.
she seems so trashy it makes my skin crawl. she sounds so disgusting. how is he still with her? how did she procreate?
You absolutely make sense as I have been trying to go down that route. And, if I feel a meltdown coming on, I don't initiate contact nor respond to Xh's antics.
However, I just got in touch with my T about the trip. He is more concerned about OW being the company of the kids than anything else. He said now is the time I need to be firm with XH as far as her being around them. Remember, she was the one who changed out of her bathing suit while sitting in the front seat and my kids were in the back.
My T said she has had more than enough opportunities to get her act together and she hasn't. A year or so ago OW asked my D if she could "take a poop" while D takes a shower. (and..there was an available batheroom)
I am disgusted just typing this is. I hate talking about this, typing about it, thinking about it. I wish it would just end. No, it's not that I am upset XH is with her, he can have the nasty skank, it's the fact that my kids are being exposed to this.
If this were our sitter, or an uncle, or a neighbor, my XH would be FUMING!
So, looks like I am going on Monday to the courthouse to file a motion to to keep her away from the kids and to address the travel stuff. I want to request my XH needs a notarized signed consent from me if he takes the kids on vacation. Period.
Now you all know why I am so tired. I have a great job. Great boyfriend. Terrific kids. Beautiful home (great rose garden :-) and I am dealing with this crap.
So, I was told to write a letter to XH stating my intention if he does not give me travel info, etc. As for OW, I told him the two of them are upsetting the kids by all the fighting.
Okay..gotta run..
But I wanted EVERYONE to check out this fundraiser for kids with cancer. A friend of mine's son has been free and clear for over a year but she knows one of these families that you will see on this website.
It's about a bunch of dad's who are biking across the country to try to raise money for the children who have cancer.
Now, my friends, this is what I would rather be focusing my energy on. Helping these beautiful children. And I will..
Been kind of a stressful few days but all in all, fine.
My T told me it's time to get the show on the road legally about the kids. He thinks that the kids being around OW is not healthy. He is still pushing for me to call the state but I asked him if I filed a motion for her to not be around them and he told me it was a good idea..
UGH!
XH is going to flip out..
OH well..
Kids are doing well. D10 on dance team and S13 basketball. I have been busy with lesson plans and the house.
Weather has been beautiful.
Just wish this legal garbage would end already. The stupid OW even haunts me in my sleep as I had a nightmare with her and the X last night!
The stupid OW even haunts me in my sleep as I had a nightmare with her and the X last night!
Ugh, I hate those dreams. I haven't had one in a long time, but I remember how awful they are.
OW doesn't really sound fit to be around anyone's kids...good look with the legal action. Too bad your H can't move away from her just a little quicker.
All is quiet around here as I plan my strategy. XH is away for a while so I have time to think.
Other than that, my job is great! I love the kids and they make me belly laugh. OMG! To teach freshman in college is a riot. They have so much on their mind, too, as they are in a major transition, too. Funny, I am way more compassionate about transition due to the D process, etc. I do think this is all going to be a valuable tool when I teach being that I have been there, done that..Many of the kids come from divorced homes, a few from abusive families as they write in their journals. All I can do is to try to listen and give them the tools to do well academically and slip some other life lessons in as well..
Off I go to dad's bday party..New guy going with D and we are having a bbq since it is 85 degrees here!!
All is quiet around here as I plan my strategy. XH is away for a while so I have time to think.
Other than that, my job is great! I love the kids and they make me belly laugh. OMG! To teach freshman in college is a riot. They have so much on their mind, too, as they are in a major transition, too. Funny, I am way more compassionate about transition due to the D process, etc. I do think this is all going to be a valuable tool when I teach being that I have been there, done that..Many of the kids come from divorced homes, a few from abusive families as they write in their journals. All I can do is to try to listen and give them the tools to do well academically and slip some other life lessons in as well..
Off I go to dad's bday party..New guy going with D and we are having a bbq since it is 85 degrees here!!
