Your story is pretty typical of the 'lost attraction' situations all over this board.
She's testing you as a man, and you're allowing her to have her cake and eat it too.
What did you do over the past years that may have lost attraction for her?
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She recently asked if she could go golfing with the OM. How do I answer that? I say no, I seem controlling. If I say yes then I seem permissive. I ended up telling her that I would never approve of her dating someone else but that I'm not going to interfere with her free will. Her response is that she shouldn't tell me the "truth" anymore because I just get upset. Far as I can tell I express myself cool and calm but I just don't know how to deal with this. It doesn't seem like I should apply extreme measures like LRT or After LRT or ultimatum but she still refuses to stop being "friends" with OM. I don't mean to but I'm seriously loosing all "love" I have for her. Please help.
So, you're a doormat then?
I'll tell you that she doesn't respect you if she'll play this game, and she shouldn't respect you because you are not telling her in no uncertain terms that you, as a man, are not going to stand for this. Either she stops this behavior or she needs to seriously consider getting out.
The 'LRT' is extreme, but you can also say what I just posted. It isn't a threat, it's a 'you cannot have both' statement. A FACT.
