My biggest problem is and has always been my expectations. I allow her actions to give me expectations. After last week, I felt that it was over and I felt a lot better. Then she keeps initiating R talks and then the C thing. She sucks me in....
There ya go. Work on the expectations. Make a plan:
When CW calls and starts talking C, R, blah, blah, blah, I will:
1-kindly but firmly end the conversation as quickly as possible. 2-put on headphones and listen to the loudest, rockingest song I can find to get said conversation out of my head. (insert any activity that will get her words off your mind) 3-when the conversation comes back into my head, I will repeat in my mind or out loud if necessary the words: I enjoy a happy, commited relationship with a beautiful, moral, healthy woman.
It has been well put here that your W is confused, does not know what she really wants, and is blowing in the wind. She knows you, how to manipulate you, and whether she's doing it consciously or not, only you can make the choice to stay on or step off her roller coaster.
