It sounds like things have improved, at least some. It doesn't sound like time to push just yet.
Your instincts are usually on. I learned this the hard way. But...let me caution you...don't go running with it too much. Worrying about an OW will just make you crazy. Instead, focus on your marriage and yourself.
Luvvy duvvy feelings aren't important. What's important is the deeper kind of love. All that mushy romantic stuff can be rebuilt, with time, patience, and learning each other's love languages. You feel the super-romantic stuff when your needs are being met, and you feel respected. If there's still that underlying personality connection, then you can rebuild the romantic aspects.
As for your teenager--if she says she feels stressed, she is. Try to listen to and validate her feelings first. Then, maybe, try telling her how much her help would be appreciated.
But...let me caution you...don't go running with it too much. Worrying about an OW will just make you crazy. Instead, focus on your marriage and yourself.
