How many details of OP did you get, want, need?

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You are right ROT, it's an obsession which has no grounds, you are still trying to compare yourself to OW in everyway. I also had an odd obsession like that one about how my v compared to hers (shaved,etc) I even asked my H, which really drove him crazy, I did go too far. It drove me nuts too, so I can sort of understand your obsession.
What really matters over all is: are you both satisfied? I hope you are not ruining that special time by fretting "omg, I'm taking too long!" and thus, stressing, and, prob making it harder on you to O.
If you guys are having a great time while you are trying to O, then that's quality sex. I hear that the average is 10 min, but go figure when do they start keeping track of time, foreplay? active sex?

I pretty much dont' take that much time, though there has been the odd time when I just didn't O at all (seldom) if we had some good foreplay it takes no time at all. So, go, play , have him caress you there before he starts onto the serious stuff.

Jeez, I hope I"m not blushing LoL, i'm at work!