Hi Nomo! You sound great. Does w know that you're dating? I know you said that you wanted to renegotiate the terms of your s. Have you done that?
Yes. At least she knows I can date theoretically, and probably assumes I am, but doesn't know any details. Two JC sessions ago I said if W was still not willing to work on the M, that we needed to re-visit the "terms" of our separation. She still isn't willing. So, I told her I didn't feel like wearing the ring all the time (she just nodded), I told her I wanted to date because I am lonely I want to be able to go to dinner with someone or a movie or whatever (she also nodded, and when the C told her that it is possible someone will see me on a date, W said "well, I would hope he would be discrete." I replied, "does that mean you expect me to only go out at 10 pm on a Thursday well north of our home city?" no response), that I would like to alter the living arrangements, but have no good ideas how (nodded again), and that I would like to go public with our separation/impending divorce. The last one is the one that has her frozen. She is worried she will look bad, it will ruin her careeer and/or that I will trash her and this will get ugly. That issue has not been resolved, but I promised not to go "public" (though I can and am dating) until we talk further about how to resolve the going public issues.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link