SOTS made some really good points re: detach vs. withdrawal.

Maybe the friendship aspect is what he really values with you. Maybe that's what he needs. If you can detach (not let him get to you) without withdrawing, maybe you can both get your needs met.

Just a thought.

Me29
H33
D9 months
S2
S9(previous R)
Sep 8-19-07
I file 11-5-07
H home (Retro) 2-15-08
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