Lost, I meant it to reiterate what gump said and add a tad. Standing on your own, no outside assistance, knowing that you don't need his help, but at some point want it. Heck, maybe even do something for him. If something comes up that he normally would handle, do it yourself. I would think his love language is "acts of service". If he normally pays for dinner when you get together, take care of it. If he normally cooks, you offer. I know this will be hard considering the living arrangements and only getting together with d there. Get what I am saying? From what you have described you have become much more attractive person! It will take an extreme amount of patience now. Start looking at the positive interactions you have had with him, what works? I can't remember, but have you read DR or 5 Love Languages (Chapman)? Again, you seem to be taking the right steps, don't pressure him about going to C. Does he know you are going? When you find a solutions based C, maybe put the request on C. You are right, he does understand the "strategy". This is not only a way to win you H back, it is a way of life, a way for self improvement. More times than not a person becomes a much stronger individual and realizes they don't need their M back, but lots of times wants it. He has to want it now. And that my friend, will take lots of work on your part and a ton of patience. Also, it is great that you realize you "need" your H. Unfortunatley, you have to come to the realization that you don't need him or anyone else to make you happy, but would prefer them to be in your life.
