Congratulations on your wedding anniversary... in January we'll be on #23! (less 6 months of divorce proceedings??? ).
The only thing my husband does say, and insists on, is that he has had the best sex in his life with me. I think he's probably telling the truth about this. Usually his lying is more hiding or withholding information. Outright lies are not something he does easily. Also, I've known him long enough that I can usually read him pretty well (although that doesn't mean he couldn't pull one over on me... however, I think I could do that much better if I ever wanted to...).
But here's the thing. How do we know we're "good" in bed? What constitutes "good" for a woman? How is one "better" than another?
The only thing my husband has admitted to about sex with OW was that they only had intercourse once when they were both drunk, and he barely remembers it because he was so drunk. I do believe they drank a lot. I think much of their relationship revolved around drinking. After class the entire group would go out for dinner and drinks, and one thing I did notice at the time was my husband seemed to be drinking an awful lot.... to a point where I was getting concerned about it. And one thing I learned later is that OW was a big "partier" during her sorority days, and has continued that. Anyhow, I'm not sure if I believe how much he remembers or doesn't remember. And my guess is they had plenty of other sexual experiences prior to intercourse.
And I know Cat, none of this matters and you are rolling your eyes right now... and I can't blame you because if this were turned around and I was giving you advice I'd be doing the exact same thing!!!!!! Ugh
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