How many details of OP did you get, want, need?

[cat03]

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when it ended and why?
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now, that is a very good valid question, how often they did it while in disney isn't.

I know , I've been there, and in a way, still affected by the details, how I wanted to know that it wasn't all good when H was with op. I could NOT have been perfect, she was another human being with faults and prob had things your H did not like. I used to try to ask those questions from my H last year "what do you like better in me, what you didn't like in her" and he'd just retreat and refused to answer, I was just bringing up the dead corpse of the A all over again.

My H told me after the most recent bomb how op was pathetic and had so many issues, he out and out told me "she is a wreck, you are not", funny thing is, didn't make me feel any better.

If your H shows you affection and love, that is what counts, how I wish for that in my H, I'm surviving day to day now, reminding myself that Rs need at least a year to fully recuperate from an A, I , again, get no consolation or hugs. You are in a much better place, don't disect the A and keep it open, you are pushing your H away.

You don't need to know what bad traits she had to know you are 100% better as the mother of your children and that (thanks whapu) he wants YOU to be the only one.
My self steem still is suffering a bit, but you and I have to remember we are good, beautiful people on our own account, we dont' need to compare ourselves to those whores to feel better.

Your homework, (if you haven't already) is to watch "The Three Burials of Melquiades Estrada" with Tommy Lee Jones, observe how the lead carries a corpse for so long it becomes an insane task, think of the corpse as the little inconsecuential details that are bothering you now. Let it go.