Has your W ever had any C? I just wonder if she has any idea what it will involve?
She seems very confused. I wouldn't help her here - personally I would keep doing what you are doing and let her work it out.
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Which sounded odd at first being as we are considering seeing a C, then she corrected it to saying that she needs to make the decisions on her own without any other influences.
If she truly means that I would see that as a positive thing. Makes me think she is seeing that she needs to use her head a bit more.
mc - I'm not sure how good I am at giving advice at the moment. My H is with me and great but I am in a bit of a funk. Don't know why - I think I need more than a bottle of peroxide tho!! More like a head transplant. I worked my sitch out in the tough love way and my H has been constant since recommitting. It was short and intense - but I am on the boards, so obviously I am not sorted. And the more I joke generally means the more I am crying as I type.
Try to keep your distance so that if she goes on the weekend she doesn't see your pain. Assume she will go and then if she doesn't then that's a bonus rather than hoping she won't and being hurt when she does.
She is obviously confused - and even tho' she is crying she may be getting off on the drama. If it is making you feel sick put some distance in. Keep not answering the phone unless there is something you need to discuss. Don't be too available. Look after yourself.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
