My C said ...He did try to get me to express my rage to him, but I couldn't. He said I needed a safe place to express it, but I just couldn't let myself lose control, even a little bit. I did mention a few things to him about my anger, and he said a lot of that seems to stem from the feeling that I have that my W doesn't "see me."


I missed this! So you did get to your C. What did he think of your anger? I did look up a few books on Anger and Rage by Ronald Potter-Efron that looked interesting. He went to U of Michigan for his MSW but other than that I couldn't find anything negative about him ;\)

The statement about some anger coming from the feeling that you W does not "see you" is interesting. Did that resonate with you? Did you and your C talk about why it is so upsetting to have your wife not "see" you? Or have you thought about it since? Just a thought what if you did not personalize her not seeing you? What if her not "seeing" you is NOT a reflection of how she feels about you OR how worthy you are? What if her not "seeing" you is just a reflection of her own personal issues? Does that make any difference or not as far as feeling angry? Really think about it because I would think your next action would be based on this answer.

Good Luck with DOing!!



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus