Sorry don't know how to use the quote function yet. He has as much as said this. He said he sees it sometimes and then he sees the old me. I still think part of him is trying to see the old me. THats OK> I know that this is going to take ALOT of time.
We are listening Mrs. Ineeditnow. Sorry just had to say that. - Forrest GUmp Sadly this is true. I have always been about instant gratification. Another thing I will learn in this process is patience. If it is worth it, it is worth working and WAITING for.
You had "The man of your dreams". The caretaker. Time goes on everything ok... Then you decide that "there is something better" and roll out. "The something better" is still in your life as of a couple of days ago. "Man of you dreams" has now somehow gotten better. You really want it back. He has now become "The man all women dream of". - FOrrest Gump
Forrest...you do not have this right. I did not leave my H for anyone. I was not involved with this EA other than as a sounding board for my frustration. He has not been 'something better'. My H has made alot of changes, true, and yes they are very attractive to me. I have alot of respect for him standing up for himself instead of laying down and letting the world walk all over him...even with me.
To me (again just a DAM) he has to see you standing on your own, naked in the pouring down rain. No outside help whatsoever. That will be his bomb. - FOrrest Gump
I left because I needed to learn to be independant. I always thought I was but realized that I depended on everyone around me for everything. I have a 4 year old 2 year old, full time job, part time job and I have not asked for a single thing. I have in fact given him money (have to point out here that he just got a new tattoo, has been down to the states for 3 seperate concerts in 5 weeks and gone on a week vacation with his EA) None of which I have done...(really need the vacation) I have not called on him to do anything for me. I am VERY independent now...BUT I DID HURT HIM and I AM NOT NEW.
I just have to say the "I need someone" aint gonna work for you. When he says you have some work. That is what he is pointing at. He will "care" for you in ways you never imagined. You just gotta be "in the rain". - Forrest Gump
I dont need 'someone'....I need my husband. I know I have work to do and this is what I am doing now.
It is a support group for ALL involved. No friend likes to constantly do things for their buddy and have their buddy never return the favor. - Gone Dancing
Got it. Thanks for the advice and I see it. I am new here and feel like I know nothing. I dont feel that I am in any position to give advice yet....but I am reading peoples threads. Guess perhaps letting them know I was there might be a good idea
Cliffy - thanks for your well wishes and standing in the rain naked- does that mean be vulnerable. Maybe I 'm thick but I need some clarification.
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M: 34 H: 32 M: almost 6 years S: 2 yrs D: 4 yrs Together: 8 Known him: 15 years I walked away: April 1st Wanted back: May 1st!!!!!
