I call my D5&S4 every night to say "goodnight". Two nights ago, when I was done speaking to my kids, my W got back on the phone and asked me "so how are you doing"? I was quite puzzled and made my answer very short.."I'm good" and quickly ended the call.
Then last night, I call to speak to my kids and, again, she gets on the phone after and says: "for some strange reason I was thinking about you today, so how are you doing"? I didn't want to be as quick as the night before and I told her that my new job was going well and I have been kicking a little a**. I said I am feeling good about the progress I have made to which she replied, "I am happy for you".
I am really not sure what to make of this. For quite some time I was sure she didn't care if I was dead or alive since I am the cause(in her eyes) of her life not being where she pictured it.
Of course, I don't want to over-analyze her motives but she has also not brought up D or mediator in over a month. Ironically, here in NY, she doesn't have any grounds for a D but I won't give her a problem if that is what she wants.
Any thoughts on her persistence to ask: "how are you doing"?
Me: 41 W: 40 D5, S4 Bomb Dropped: 7/8/2007 Status: W has moved out with kids 8/25/2007
