Good point both of you. The timing of this is important. I am giving her the letter on my second day back at work so she will be here by herself to read it and reflect. Also her B-day is the weekend after she reads the letter. I am still thinking about the letter. There is so much more I want to say but I don't want to confuse the issue. Some of the additional things I was thinking about were:
How can she say I can not tell her she can't contact the OM but...She can tell me not to contact him?
My mom a couple of days ago told someone she could not go to a meeting because she had picked up my D from work. (She just said that because she didn't want to go). My W said " I don't like covering your mom's lie’s” WHAT?????? What do you think I have been doing for her?
I went to our Eye Doctor yesterday and I am going to the dentist today. Both receptionists are friends of the family and ALWAYS ask how my W is doing. It hurts to "lie" every time and say things are fine when I know they would be shocked if I just came out and said “oh she is having and affair"
Also there is trust. How can I truly trust her? It will take a while to gain the trust back.
There are many more things but I don't want to start throwing too much information at her.
Sorry I am getting nervous again. I feel like I am at the end of the road. I am going to make it or break it and this is my last chance.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
