He knows all of that. They know, they just don't want to know.
I don't know what the balance should be...maybe, show him your caring when he is with you, but don't go out of your way to reach out to him.
But, I think that you handled the last convo about needing to detach from you very well. Just because he said he wouldn't reach out to you again when in that state, doesn't mean he won't.
Hope that you have a good workout and enjoy your playdate.
