Good luck to you jak - I agree with CL's advice, don't walk on eggshells, keep it positive, and talk about what you'd like to see. Also good idea to have a plan in place depending on the response.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
.. why don't we take Mom right after you get out of work and dump her off then go to the movies!
Jak, I would certainly mention how happy you are that he wanted to spend time alone with you after dinner with mom. He is doing a nice thing for his mom, but he also is letting you know he realizes you two need time together. Pretty amazing if you ask me!!! (or at least comparing what my H would have done in the same situation. I would have been the one inviting his mom to dinner and begging H to go along. Then I'd be the one initiating the movie, but he'd rather go have a beer with his brother.
No R talk last nite H got home late from helping his mom after work.I did not think H would be enough into the talk that late and would be preoccupied.
It was also the start of Survivor China and He's into that so I'll Definitaly be talking over the week end as he has it off and will update as soon as it happens(well as soon as I can get on the puter).
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 09/21/0711:38 AM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
hey, jak, it sometimes seems so funny how much we have in common, you in upstate NY, and me in the heart of Dixie, my H will let me give the compliments on his appearance, and won't say anything about how I look. I wish he would, other people do, his family will tell me I look nice, even our nephew told me I looked beautiful, but it's like he doesn't hear it. And your H loves Survivor like my H does, we have never missed a season of it. And, I have asked my H to take me shooting, only I want to shoot guns, instead of bows, although I took archery in college. I think he's afraid I'll use my new skills on him!!!
I hope you have fun this weekend, I hope we all do.
Im'e doing well. Still waiting for the right time for R talk though I am hoping tonite after his Mom goes home and before the new shows atart that he watches.
Sometimes I wonder if there ever is a right time. But i at least have to pick a decent one.
How are you?
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Yes Matilda they are. I still would like to know where he stands on things in the R and let him know things I would like to see also. But yes the right time is key and there seems not to be one right now with things the way they are with h's parents and eberything else.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
