I will be devastated if I find out you are not sending Christmas cards with a picture of you and the babies, oh heck, how about costumes for Halloween.
Make yourself too busy having fun loving those spoiled babies to think too much about anything else. I am thinking a costume party for family and all their pets.
Just got around to reading your post now. Sorry about the anniversary alone, but you are right about it getting a little easier the less you feel married. I went through two alone, but I can't say the last one we were together was all that great either.
One step at a time I guess until we are up and running again. Take care, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Ooooo I want a Christmas card with you and puppy and kitty too. What a great idea!!
We have been adjusting very well, thanks for asking. The kids love it thank goodness. We just got home from cheer practice (I coach, they cheer).
I completely understand what you mean about not feeling married anymore. Sometimes I feel that way too, actually a lot of the time. But I do still feel married sometimes, like my H is on a business trip. It's so weird. I talked to H today and he seemed so normal and nice it makes it hard to believe we are where we are.
Hope - I am sorry that you are facing the the third alone - even the fact that we feel less married is cometimes hard to cope with.
I loved being married to my h, and I believe that he did to me. But they rewrite history. Of course they are the losers, because by rewriting history they invalidate all their past happiness to validate their current grab for happiness.
I am almost 2 years post bomb, my h shows no signs of emerging from the tunnel. In fact I would ay he is now crazier in some ways than he has been. In other ways he is attempting to reconnect with his family. I think that like your h, the damage lies very deep, and that acknowledging what they have done to their spouses takes a long time, and a lot of courage. After that there is so much healing to do.
I hope that the conversation that you had with your h did go some way to giving you some closure, by acnowledging that it truly was all about him. That conversation resonated with me, as I feel from the few conversatons that we have had, and also by what my h has been doing, that your h's emotonal experience is quite similar to what my h has been, and is still going through.
I believe that you are still an important part of your h's life, and that whatever the outcome for your future relationship, you have a role to play, if you want it.
Aww, Was2, I wish I could get puppy and kitty to sit calmly for 10 sec. so I could take a photo! Not gonna happen. Puppy is just too excitable, and kitty, well, he would rather be anywhere else than posing next to puppy.
I'm doing a little better today; yesterday is behind me. H is busy working; I think he submerges himself in work so he doesn't have to deal with himself. He doesn't really have to get a life if he's too busy on the job.
I'm doing the best I can. Some days are harder than others. Fall is a fun time of the year and I am making the most of it. I already have plans for both days this weekend, doing autumn-related things.
I'm going out for a drink with a co-worker friend tomorrow; should be nice. She's married but I sense she's had her share of hard times, so we'll probably talk. She kind of knows what happened to me.
You know that lyric, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"? I try to remember that, and stay focused. We just never know...did any of us ever think we'd end up on a BB like this?
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Aww, Was2, I wish I could get puppy and kitty to sit calmly for 10 sec. so I could take a photo! Not gonna happen. Puppy is just too excitable, and kitty, well, he would rather be anywhere else than posing next to puppy.
LOL, I hear you on this one. I don't know how people get their pets to pose...ours go crazy the minute they see the camera aimed at them.
I'm glad you made it through okay...I suppose they do get easier, but certainly not easy.
Originally Posted By: hopefloats7
You know that lyric, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans"? I try to remember that, and stay focused. We just never know...did any of us ever think we'd end up on a BB like this?
Hope, if you had time I would be interested in your views on the weird conversation with my h. [My new thread] He is still deep in the tunnel, but the quality of the conversation was unbelievable: I felt as if I was talking to someone whose personality was fracturing,
The kids love it thank goodness. We just got home from cheer practice (I coach, they cheer).