I questioned this very thing...you see H was so in debt...he wasn't working...and was physically ill...so I wondered if he returned because he had no where else to go...or was it because he wanted to be home...he told me he wanted to be home because he had friends that he could go to...he had family that would take him in but he chose to come home...and it wasn't as if he wanted to come home right at that time either...he was still willing to take the time to make sure we were ready...
How long did it take to fully trust H again???....sometimes I still have doubts...like when I found old emails (but still after he was home) from/to OW...sometimes what he says about things doesn't make sense to me...but as far as OW...or anyone else I am doing good there...it is just a gut feeling that things are really okay!...he is still healing a lot from his emotional wounds...his depression is getting better...he has done so good with his alcohol recovery...he had one slip in a year and that was 9 months ago...
I will check out your thread when I get a chance...but till then take care...Lin
