Hmmm. Can't say I share the same situation. We are more the opposite. I'm the people pleaser, and my husband is the control person. Except he is lazy about it so he tries to control everything by doing nothing which frustrates me, so I have to rush in and pick up the pieces so no one gets hurt. I think maybe every couple is a mismatch is some way. I mean after all, we are complex personalities. How could we possibly just match up on all characteristics and fit together perfectly like yin and yang?