new here and really worried

[GoodGuy]

Lost,
My W hasn't filed for D either. We have been separated (she moved out) for 3 months, plus 5 more months living in separate bedrooms and very distant. I came here and read, I read Micheles books, I asked questions, I felt desparate, I didn't know how I could go on without her. Here I sit after 5 months still missing my wife very much. I have joint custody of my 10 year old son, so I don't see him for days at a time, I am financially in a bind because I bought her out of the house and split all assets. Pretty grim huh? But she has not filed for divorce, I hang onto that, and you should too.
But, having said that, I was told by the good people here to GAL (Get A Life), so I did. I work out with weights 5 days a week and I look great, I play hockey and coach my sons football team, I work fulltime of course and take care of my house and all that goes with it, and I feel better. My wife might never come back, and if she doesn't I can now say it was her loss. But if I tried to tell myself that 3 months ago, I would have said I will be depressed forever. You need to work on yourself, I know it seems like such an empty suggestion right now, but do it anyway.
Find a fun thing you enjoy, work out, whatever.
Time will ease up on your pain, but don't give up, just be a nice, kind person, do a 180!