Nomopo's Funk? Is that what this is?

[NotAgainPlease]

Nomo,

I hear ya! When my H wanted to work it out I was seeing someone I really was having fun with. Just starting to get into the groove again :). The here he comes. I wanted it and didn't at the same time. I struggled with it for a couple of weeks. I'm finally getting what I wanted and was working for and now it is here and I'm not sure I want it?? What’s' up with that? I think it is natural. We all have such pain that we have worked through and are a little scared.
I am happy I decided to make a go of it with my H. I hate to say it but the way we are now. The last seven months was the best thing to happen to our M. In out case the issues we had kind of worked our way through it. I guess we really both new what we need to do and are just doing it. This part is a little strange for me. Since we DBers have spent so much time on "changing" I thought we would have to have a big sit down talk about all the issues. I guess that is where we are to treat people the way you want to be treated. This is so true. I am really proud of my H he is really working hard too. He will be upset at the kids about something and usually turn to me and blow. I was so shocked the other day when this happened. I automatically thought to myself, here we go. Didn't happen he was really nice to me. That is a HUGE step. In the past ALL (no matter who it was or why) was my fault.
So, IMO I think it is normal to be a skeptic. You are out there having fun and getting attention. It feels good and a big ego boost. Something you haven't had in a long time. When or if the time comes you will figure it out.
Take care,
Sally