....help me del with this - H moved out five weeks ago and I have heard or wseen nothing since. Is it possible that this total cut-off is a positive for him? I am so lost without at least hering from him each dy.....what does it all mean?!?!?!?!?
I am so sorry that you find yourself here but you have come to the right place for support. I think that the reason your husband has cut himself off is most likely as a result of the tremendous guilt he is feeling. The best thing you can do at this time is work on yourself. It would be helpful to people on the board if you explained a bit more about your situation, ie: is there OW involed, how long were you together, do you have kids etc?
There is also alot of useful information in the rsources section at the top of this forum.
Take Care
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
M 13 years, together 15 Major MLC - "don't love you, want to be "liberated" sweetest, most amazing man in the world....:( no kids - supposed to be trying NOW!!!
M 13 years, together 15 Major MLC - "don't love you, want to be "liberated" sweetest, most amazing man in the world....:( no kids - supposed to be trying NOW!!!
This is a horrible ride no matter how you slice it. I've heard that it's easier with them gone. I don't know my H is still at home. From my perspective it's really hard to have them here. It's not like he loves me or anything intimate is going on. Usually I think I have a pod person here. Mostly he interacts well with our D's and if that's the most positive thing that happens , well it's something.
I'm now going to say the words that may make you throw up....GAL. I know it's hard, but it's your survival we're talking about here. You need to become the best expression of you...for YOU. All of this takes TIME and PATIENCE. I never thought I would get through the day without cryong. Now I do. I never thought I'd be able to make plans that didn't include him....guess what? You'll get there. The best therapy for me has been walking and meditating. It helps me to clear my head and think about what I want and need for my life, regardless of who I share it with.
The tough part is tha I HAVE a full life - always did. And I have never begged, pleaded, cried o whned for him to stay - or come home. I cannot deal with his much longer....what cqn I do?!?!?!
