I am in the same boat as you, on the "let it go" category. I think that is how they shield themselves from not giving into their emotions. Back to the real question...You wear that ring as long as you want to...
#1- shows you are devoted to your M
#2- turn the tables a little bit, all that is really doing besides # 1 is showing the world you are not available, so that is no way hurting her...possibly just you. So if you are content with that and accept that, then it becomes none of her business. Plus if you take if off, it may come up missing like mine did..BIG MISTAKE!!
Keep your chin up, she is in the angry stage right now so just get your lifejacket on a wait it out..let all the ugliness roll off your back. I know it is MUCH harder to do than it is to say.