What could he do in his behavior and actions that would make you feel better about trusting him?
Corri
I don't know. Total honesty would be a great start. I have told him this, but he will do anything to avoid conflict, including lies. Mostly it is lies by omission, if he doesn't tell me something than I won't be upset or angry. Really backfires when I eventually do find out. Then I am angry over the issue AND angry at the deceit. I know my reactions are not always predictable as my "feelings" about an issue are often based on what else is going on in my life at the time, whether I want to deal with it or just take a stance that it doesn't matter if he chooses to cheat I will be fine, I will walk away and be just fine. Other times I don't want to walk away, I don't want a D, I want this to work and then of course I monitor the R and make sure it's working. I have the whole issue of whether males and females can be just friends. How far can the friendship go before it is considered an EA? How far before it becomes a PA? I think I am trying to find some boundaries for myself. I am trying to examine me, my life, what is it I want? My emotions, my feelings and how I deal with it internally much less with H. And damn this hard. I probably didn't answer your question but it felt good to write that.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
