I would have a very hard time trying again if my wife did the kind of thing yours did. It might be possible to forgive, but I worry about the forgetting. I read about someone that reconciled with his wife, but couldn't help remembering how she had told him (while separated) that she wished he had died in the WTC disaster. He wrote that it comes to mind and a little bit of his love for her dies. I think all those issues with your wife would do the same.
Take care
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
