a ring problem

[rhoch]

I haven't been here in quite a while. For anyone who needs to see where I am coming from, th old link address is
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1012049&page=3#Post10120
To update....W filed and i was served with D papers on Aug. 2nd. I had to find an attorney to answer and the attorney has been very helpful. I also suggested we see a counselor to try to find a way to communicate since we are looking at an equal time split with kids. She agreed as long as we were not seeing the counselor to help the M.

Both sessions with the C have turned into a bash fest toward me. She speaks with venom and bitterness that is actually frightening. The C told me to realize that I was just the target and not the whole cause or probably not even the biggest cause and she would try to get W to see that too.

My question for the group pertains to out last session...I was basically accused of being very controlling and the example of that was that i am still wearing my ring. She is very upset by that. For the life of me, I could not figure out why she is so angry about me wearing my ring! I have some thoughts on it now but I would like to hear what some folks here think too.