Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Hi Nomo--and hi, Ewe! I hope that you are both doing well. I think about you both from time to time and wonder about how your kids are doing, and so on.
Hello all my friends!!! Thanks for checking in on me. Things are going well for mer personally. Very well.
No developments in my M sitch that I know of. W is not much of a talker anyway, and we are having very little contact, so I am clueless about what is going on in her mind. We had an intense JC session last week. The C suggested she meet with each of us alone this week. W went this morning, and I go tomorrow. Maybe I will know mnore after that. Maybe not. Anyway, our interactions have been friendly, but I have detached to a large, large, large degree.
I have been dating. It has been very healthy for me personally. I have been deprived of much for too long. WE ALL DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!
Not sure what effect this dating will have on my M. There is a big part of me that wants to move on with my life, and leave W behind. There are small parts of me that (1) feel sorry for W (she is so lost in my mind it is sad) and (2) wonder if W will come around. I have to be honest - I am actually afraid she might. If that happened, it would be so hard. I am so much more detached, and the thought of slogging through re-building a R with her is terrifying. It would be such hard work, and would take so long, and I'm not at all sure it would work or be worth it. I don't have much confidence she can be the person I thought she was or that I need her to be. Thus, my life would be easier if she never gave me that choice to make.
Enough of that. Really just wanted to bump my thread back up. I hope all of you are well. I try to keep tabs on people, but have been busy with other stuff. Guess we're all just doing the best we can.
Later, Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
W is not much of a talker anyway, and we are having very little contact, so I am clueless about what is going on in her mind.
I have been dating. It has been very healthy for me personally. I have been deprived of much for too long. WE ALL DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!
If that happened, it would be so hard. I am so much more detached, and the thought of slogging through re-building a R with her is terrifying. It would be such hard work, and would take so long, and I'm not at all sure it would work or be worth it.
Later, Nomo
My H is the same way. Not much of a talker. I asked him in the beginning if he had nothing to say about any of it. How can you talk things out when one person is unwilling. He said he had a million things in his head but he wouldn't speak them until he sorted them out. I guess he just ignored everything and went the easy way out to be with OW so he didn't have to talk.
Yes we do all deserve to be happy and no use sitting at home while S is out having fun not even giving you or the M/R one single thought. It feels good to go out and date but I am taking things real slow. I don't want to jump into a full time A as I still want to do things with friends also.
I was just pondering today how strange it would be if H wanted to work things out. I would feel like he was a stranger if we would move in right away. Would have to start dating H again like a kid in order to start feeling comfortable with him. Just as-if he was a stranger that you just met.
Glad you are feeling good again.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
That was one really awesome note that you got from that lady that you are seeing. You must have have had a smile on your face that lasted days.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
