Thanks for the support. Goooood weekend, not out of the woods by a long shot, but W and I went to the cinema and we chatted and I held her hand. Wow, that sounds so pathetic when you write it, but it was lovely.
Went to see a brit film - Run, Fatboy, Run and it should be sold on this website. Basic story, man wants girl back, starts making changes in his life, becomes a better person (and run a marathon) and film ends with hope. Its a comedy, but I could see some parallels. So that was nice.
W now in bed, tired out. I seem to have the energy and have just booked her some appointments (hair/contacts) for next week. W also raised the issue about new carpets in the home - could be I'm staying for another week.
As you can tell, I'm feeling up at the moment - little to no intimacy, but I am not putting any pressure on that front - for the sake of another 20 plus years, I can be celebate for a couple of months (I hope).
Still nagging thoughts of OP, but she has not seen him in 5 months, so whilst still an EA, she has not been to see him.
So up at the moment and hope you are all 'feeling the lurve'.
Paul- Although I haven't posted on your thread, I have been "lurking" for some time. Keep up that good work. What you are doing (and not doing) is having a real effect. Keep up the good work!!
I am not sure what "feeling the lurve" is, but I can assure you that I am feeling none of it.
lwb- If you think it's dorky... so does your husband. And if he supports your "dorkiness," well, that's a very good sign.
I'm so glad to see that you had a great time at the movie. Holding hands......that sounds nice.....I'd love to have that right now. It's a nice sign. That's the part I miss, is the hugs, hand holding, small kisses....etc. Everything else has been okay, but that.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you and your wife do for a living? I had another confrontation with H this morning & later was telling a good friend about it. I told her as sick as it makes me feel, I understand how they became connected. Both her husband and I work during the day. H & OW stayed home during the day with our kids and worked together at night. Neither, apparently, was perfectly happy in their M's and started talking. My H wanted to leave his job for a different company a few months back and then found the position (w/in the same co.) that he has now. There's always that....why didn't I....question that comes into my head. I was so happy that H had found a good company to work for that I told him that I'd help him find something new, but that staying with this co. would be good because they're stable and he can grow a career there. How did I know though??
Sorry to hijack your thread. I'm glad you're feeling up.
There's an HBO series that I'd love to see about couples & their marriage problems called "Tell Me You Love Me". I'd love to start watching it. I'm sure it would fit some of our sitch's.
Take care- SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Ask any question you like In all seriousness, W is a Pharmacist and I work in HR. W met OP at a Forum she attended for her area (he attends for his area), so he is in the same business as her.
I suppose I can understand how they became connected also, but damn do I feel narked about it.
Mark,
I love lurkers LOL. Lurve is the same as love, and I think all of us miss that the most.
Sorry, read your post a bit more. W's A started after she moved to manage a larger branch and had much more pressure placed on her. I didn't cheerlead her (my fault) and he probably did.
Guess what I'm doing now, even though she has been badly burnt out by the bigger job and is moving to something closer to home.
In all seriousness, W is a Pharmacist and I work in HR. W met OP at a Forum she attended for her area (he attends for his area), so he is in the same business as her.