I have brought these issues to my H's attention time and time again. I have stated my preferred frequency (2-4x/week) time and time again. I have had my concerns deflected over and over. ... Previously the problem of sex 1 or 2x/month was explained away as "too busy, stressed, there was this problem or that" - well, a year gets pretty hard to explain.
Ugh.
Sounds like a problem with his priorities. and/or the children bogged him down emotionally.
out of curiosity, how did you bring it up to him before? What kind of language?
"honey, did you know that I would enjoy sex 4 times a week?"
or did you ever take it to the level of, "Look, I'm not getting what I need, as a person, sexually, out of this marriage right now. (and not for a long time now, either!)"
I'm wondering, because you phrased his response as "dismissing your concerns". That doesnt sound like he really understood that this is something you need, not just "a concern".
I'm also wondering if he actually "gets it", that women do have a real sex drive, too.
Last edited by Dom R; 09/25/0707:19 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
