My nephew, who is 26 and whom I have known since his birth is , getting married! Unfortunately the nephew is on my husband's side but I love him and he is my favorite nephew. My niece is pregnant and I'd like to see her too. This may be the last time I'll see my mother and father in-law before they die as well. It's a lot of money to go out east for three days though and my WAH says it would be too awkward to have me go. My sitch, seperated May 20 2006, married 21 years, three kids 20,17,14. At this point my life is happy happy and things are going well. Finacially, I am pointed towards ruin unless I get a job very soon. The wedding is in October. I don't see my WAH at all except for business. He avoids me. His EA online with an old high school sweetheart lasted six months and he says its over. I think he'll probably look her up when he is in Boston for the wedding now though. He says he is miserable but doesn't give me any indication that he might want to come back. Its been 16 months since he walked out. He hasn't file for divorce but I think I may. Anyone have any thoughts they want to share? I could use any feedback since I have to RSVP by tomorrow. Thanks for your thoughts. Yours, Desperate Freema
I do but I'm scared to. I don't want to make my husbands family uncomfortable at a time that should be joyful. I also hate the thought of him seeing the women he broke up with me for. I'm angry that if he should seek her out he will once more be using our kids as a smoke screen for his extra marital endeavors, you know, the great DAD while all the while he is only thinking of his own happiness. If I were really brave and rich I'd say, yes, I absolutely will go, act responsibly, give my best to everyone with the thought that I may never again see my family of the last 25 years.
I recently took my 11mo boy back to my home city. His father staid here. I hadn't seen the in-laws in a couple of years, and was terrified of 'facing them,' post-divorce. But, none of them had seen the baby...so...
It was nice. I'm glad I went. They were thrilled to see the baby, happy to see me, and didn't bring up the dreaded topic. I think I would have regretted it had I not gone to see them.
Would you regret it if you didn't go? It would certainly be an excellent opportunity to dress nicely, and show a lot of class and grace. Do you think you could get through it without breaking down?
People are going to think what they're going to think. All you can do is behave with dignity.
