The new therapist has spoke with the old one, and she has contacted me several times already. One of the things she has assured me of is that she will be addressing the issue of honesty right from the get-go (something the others did not do clearly enough, IMO) and including me in some of the sessions down the road to ensure that honesty is being upheld. WOW, I am impressed with her already.
Too many people (my opinion) get behind the confidentiality bandwagon, and hold some things back from the non-direct client.
H seems open to the idea that a woman therapist might be able to help him more than the males have (he has always been more respectful and accepting of a woman's point of view/opinion that a man's and thinks women should have more positions of power so perhaps this will be beneficial) Sometimes I am like that too.
I know when BB and I were in individual then group sessions, I seemed to understand other women in the group more than BB sometimes. Sometimes the guys made more sense than the therapist/group leaders (1 male and 1 female group leader as a team).
(in addition to what I have previously posted) Ouch, more? I understand why some things go un-said.
Some posters on the SSM forum didn't spill all of the beans for 3 years.
I have been able to detach myself and, for the most part, look at it from a different prospective, which has helped tremendously. Yes, I had to detach before doing some of my own work/things I needed to do or say to BB.
I suppose as long as you detach and remain considerate of the OP's feelings, and do things with a "best intentions mind" detaching is what needs to happen sometimes. BTDT to a degree myself.
