H-L,
Take it to heart as much as you can, your H is hurting as much as you. His judgement isn't clear. This is the part where time must pass.

Use your work now more than ever to GAL. Concentrate on your wellnes and that of your kids. Work on making you better.

Give your H space, its hard but you have to back off. Create a loving and appreciative environment at the house.

If it applies look into the 180 or LRT. They get results.

This stuff can work for us but we have to have patience and self control to allow the time for it to sink in to our other halves.

Me36
W34
M13
K B10 B12
Bomb 06/07 Near WAW
Me EA over
W EA/PA over, contact with OM ended 08/07
W had to decide OM or Me; Still at home